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Start now. Am I attractive enough? Is my penis big enough or hard enough? Am I pleasing my partner? When people engage in this spectatoring during sex, it pulls them out of the moment. It can create performance anxiety, and it can make the experience less satisfying for both partners.
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But men actually have a range of thoughts before, during, and after sexual activity—some perfectly healthy, others potentially counterproductive. Justin Lehmiller, a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want, breaks down the psychology behind some of the most common thoughts men have during sex and how to process them. The vast majority of men say that they fantasize during partnered sexual activity.
A real, U. For decades, men have been reporting issues with spectatoring. The starting point is sex education. Most men who think their penis is too small actually have perfectly normal-sized penises. If you still find that anxieties come up during sex, another approach is to practice mindfulness techniques. So adding elements of newness and novelty and excitement to your sex life can help to better maintain your focus and attention during the sexual experience. Building trust, intimacy, and communication with your partner can help alleviate a lot of these concerns men have about their own performance.
There are different ways to approach this, and you have to figure out what works well for you and for your partner. Verbal communication is sometimes intimidating, which is why we often recommend nonverbal communication as an easy way to start. So if you feel particularly anxious about having the actual conversation—and especially having it during sex—start by focusing on nonverbal cues to get in tune with what your partner enjoys. Setting boundaries is a very helpful tool. That could include not checking work s outside of work hours, or disconnecting from your mobile devices a couple of hours before bed, so by the time you go to bed with your partner, you have a clear mind and can actually be in the moment.
The key is to stop comparing yourself to porn performers and to get comfortable with yourself. There are actually some men who feel sad after orgasm. But the vast majority of men tend to report positive feelings and emotions upon reaching orgasm. Erectile dysfunction. Last updated February 27, Written by Justin Lehmiller, PhD.
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