Added: Johnette Dilworth - Date: 25.04.2022 00:42 - Views: 27208 - Clicks: 1427
So, I went to a sex party. I did this on behalf of the Passionfruit Tribe thank you Passionfruit! It describes itself as:. It sounds like an orgy with a personality and a degree. Firstly, a pre-party consent workshop from 1pm to 6pm. This is compulsory to attend the party.
Then the party itself from 8pm - Midnight. Finally, a debrief and integration session on Sunday, 11am - 2pm. Well I was freaking nervous as I walked up to the venue very non-descript from the outside on a quiet road off Lygon Street. A lot of my myths were smashed by first impressions alone. Comfy cushions on the floor as well as chairs for those that prefer them , bare walls, it has a yoga studio meets minimal living room vibe.
And then there were the people attending about 30 of them. It looked like the 9 tram diverted and plopped a carriage of folks into the space; all body types, hair styles, clothes styles and ages over 18 only of course. It did skew towards an older crowd, probably lates as an average age. We started with conversation exercises in groups, asking each other why we were there, and if we were worried about feeling unwelcome in any way.
It became clear we all had our own hangups and shame we were grappling with. We all had stories around why we would be unwelcome or invisible in a sexual space. Generally it felt like we were all there for similar reasons around two themes : permission to feel ok about sexy stuff, and to learn something new about ourselves. Then we moved on to partnered exercises. Nothing sexual happens in the workshop. Instead the partner-based exercises are to learn consent through simple touch and employing the traffic light system : Green keep going , Orange change to something else , Red stop everything.
For example, asking your partner if you can hold their hand : if they say Green you hold it, Orange you would see if they wanted a shoulder massage instead, Red you stop everything and thank your partner for calling Red. It was a long workshop but also well facilitated so there was never a break too far away and a good mix of sitting versus moving about exercises.
It was easy to talk to people in the queue about these feelings. Everyone was a first timer at some point. Some people here have clearly felt at home in the space for years. Roger the main facilitator and driving force behind Curious Creatures welcomed everyone to the space and pointed out Emotional Support crew for the night, two people with counselling backgrounds there to offer a chat, or answer any of your questions about the interesting furniture and activities around the place - the sex party fairy Godmothers.
My biggest misconception about the party was that it would be a whole load of fucking, like a big Roman orgy. There is every single sexual - and gender - expression under the sun in this space : lots of kink, threesomes, foursomes, a guy in a cage, floggings, spanking, there was even a Sybian for riding imagine a lawn mower vibrator that you sit on , and yes, good old fashioned fucking, but that felt like just one bit of the buffet rather than the baseline.
I started the night with some incredible open conversations with people about sexuality in general… … and then stumbled upon my consent-card partner from the earlier workshop. And by encounter, I mean Sexual Awakening. We agreed to not do anything with our genitals and just played with touching, breathing deeply, and kissing softly.
My whole body was lit up like a Christmas tree. It became a game in making every touch even more pleasurable, slow and playful. There were clearly some guys who came alone in search for fun and play. But the workshop pointed out that this can be another type of sexual stigma to carry around, men worry about being seen as creepy perhaps as much as I worry about being creeped on. At 11am the next day, we gathered back in the space all the cock rings and cobwebs swept away from the night before.
How did you feel you conducted yourself last night? The rest of the time was spent as a big group sharing stories and reflections on the night. They also asked for feedback about the event for general improvements. The workshop I would recommend for anybody, it's all about sensuality and touch-based. The party is a Level 5 to that Level 1 in terms of the intensity of some acts which of course you do not feel pressure to partake in and I found fascinating to observe.
But it would have been good to have a he up that you will see some eye-popping stuff! To emphasise again, these are all consensual, and hey- each to their own. The workshop and integration are perfect for reflectors. Even if you go to the party and do nothing but observe you leave with a fresh new perspective on sex.
This experience would not suit :. Those feeling nervous about sexuality might find some of the differences challenging but that can be rewarding to think about afterwards, and the integration section is there to help you process that. Otherwise attending the workshop alone is rewarding in itself. Blog Menu.
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