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Your brothers and sisters are usually—or supposedly—the first friends you have had since you shared the same home growing up. However, the reality is sometimes you consider them the most annoying people on earth, probably because of overfamiliarity and personality differences.
In some instances, you might have even thought of them as competitors. Despite these, you cannot avoid caring for them—because they are part of your being. Growing up in a big family, I know how hard it is dealing with a bunch of siblings who never fail to get on your nerves even because of petty reasons. Our best way of expressing affection is usually through playing pranks and making fun of each other.
Dividing household chores among us has also been a constant source of squabble. Nevertheless, I have always wanted to make them feel important to me. We love our siblings no matter what, right? Well, I want to share with you 15 ways of making our siblings feel loved. I have not perfected them yet, but I am trying my best to practice them. Hopefully, they help you too. One way through which you can understand your siblings better is by knowing what their passions are.
Once you know their interests, you will have an idea of what makes them happy—and you can use this to win them to your side. For instance, if you have siblings who love music, then you can treat them to a concert of their favorite artist if you have the budget. You can also give them a musical instrument as a present for their next birthday.
Or you can simply talk about music with them over a box of pizza. It is normal for us to buy gifts for our family for their birthday or other special occasions. However, we do not have to wait for such events to express love to our siblings through giving. Even if it is not Christmas or their birthday, you can surprise them with small things that will show your thoughtfulness.
Going out with your siblings is one fun way of spending time together. You can ask them out to stroll in the park or eat in a fast-food restaurant. You can also watch a movie at the nearest cinema. This can also help you unwind from stress. Usually, our siblings are the last persons we want to share our secrets with. However, it is time to remember that blood is thicker than water.
If you can trust other people, then why not your own family? Make your brothers and sisters feel that you trust them by opening up about what you are going through. This would make them soften up to you as well, and soon you could be secret-buddies. When your siblings confide their secrets to you, that means they trust you. Therefore, do not break this trust. If you promise not to tell their secrets to anyone, then do not tell a single soul about it.
Protect that trust no matter what. We tend to be tactless with our siblings because of overfamiliarity. We think we know each other so well that we do not need to listen to what they say anymore. For this reason, we easily give mean comments about what our siblings think or go through, without considering if these are appropriate or not.
Also, sometimes, all we need to do is listen to them, and that can make them feel better already. It is normal for siblings to annoy each other. However, too much of it can cause misunderstandings and serious fights. Thus, when you tease your siblings, know when to stop. Be sensitive to their feelings, and be careful with your words to avoid offending them. It is normal for siblings to have childhood fights. If you want a more harmonious relationship with them, forget about the toys they broke when you were small or the times you got spanked by your parents because of their faults.
Instead of keeping the longtime grudges, reminisce them together with laughter. Even as grownups, it is normal for siblings to have misunderstandings. No matter what they are all about, do not keep grudges towards them. It is okay to be angry, but do not let the sun down without you resolving the conflict. Be ready and willing to forgive them immediately—you are family—and they are part of who you are.
Pride is one of the reasons why sibling fights usually last more than necessary. For this matter, condition your mind from now on that you have to be humble for the sake of your love for them. Be willing to say sorry when you know it is your fault.
You should also be ready to do the first move of reconciliation regardless of whose fault the fight is. If your siblings are far away, or you seldom spend time with each other, find ways to check on them. You can call or chat with them. Ask how they are doing and what they are up to in recent days.
Even if you do not see each other often, you can still let them feel you care for them. You may not understand the passion or career choice of your siblings, yet let them know that you are cheering for them. Assure them also that you got their back if they fail along the way, and you will help them get back up. Because of comparisons that siblings normally get from relatives, family friends, and even parents, some children develop insecurities, and they start seeing their siblings as their competitors.
In case this has happened in your relationship with your siblings, show them you are not a rival by boosting their self-esteem. You can do this by sincerely praising them for their achievements and abilities. Also, point out their strengths that you do not have. You can also remind them that you are all unique, so you should not be compared.
This is not easy and even awkward to do if you are not naturally sweet and you come from a family that is not expressive. However, it would not harm if you initiate creating this new habit of sweetness. You can start hugging them in a teasing manner until such time you all become comfortable with it. Supportive of their siblings 2. Attentive listener 3. Always available to help 4. Ever thoughtful 5. Can be trusted 6. Stands up for their siblings 7. Frank and honest with them 8. Corrects their mistakes 9. Offers advice from their personal experience Teaches respect for their parents Good leader Selfless and generous Does not compete with siblings Apologizes when wrong Initiates reconciliation Forgives and does not hold grudges Gives time to bond with their siblings Takes care of them Patient and understanding Role model Prays for their siblings.
Please visit Qualities of a Good Sibling for the details. Know and understand her personality. Treat her as your best friend. Always keep in touch. Be there for her in trying times. Be polite and gentle. Give her compliments. Give her the respect she deserves.
Play and have fun together. Avoid competition. Show your affection. Initiate humility. Do not be too strict. Joke around him. Be open to him about your thoughts or problems. Assure him that he can talk to you about anything. Hang out with him and his friends. Bond with him at home. Help him with his chores, school works, or work stuff. Give him presents, even without any special occasion. Indulge him with food. Visit him whenever you can.
Invite him over from time to time. Be close with his girlfriend or wife. Ask him to be your chaperone. Go on an adventure with him. Be appreciative of your sister. Always encourage her when she feels unconfident. Be supportive of her dreams or goals. Share your secrets with her.
Assure her that you can be trusted with her secrets too. Go shopping with her. Date with each other regularly. Always buy for two. Travel together. Go to the salon or spa together. Introduce her to your friends. Get to know her friends more.Love your siblings
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