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Thank you for the opportunity to ask for help in my search for love. I really value your advice. I am going to meet someone for the first time and I need help. Hopefully I have found the man of my dreams through a dating app. I want to meet him at a special place this is a long distance meeting. Is this ok? I have two weeks to get my self-esteem together and do the right thing.
When you meet someone for the first time after you have been communicating on the phone, video, and for a while you can have a lot of expectations and hope about how things will go. It is easy to have heightened expectations about the two of you. We want to point out something very important about dating online and communicating online or via video chat. Nothing is real until you meet in person. Our intention is not to be cruel or critical — just to point out what we know to be true.
When you meet someone for the first time you want to stay conscious of the fact that a lot of what you think is going on between the two of you has been happening only in your mind. All of us fill in the blanks as we move through the world. This is escalated when there are a lot of unknowns and our mind fills in the blanks as a survival mechanism. Your desire for love, and your desire to finally meet the right guy, is clouding your vision.
Your current situation is very common and we see it all the time. A client re a dating profile of a man online and sees most of what she is looking for. One of our male clients booked a week-long trip to London after communicating via Skype with a woman, only to discover as soon as they met for the first time that there was no spark of attraction.
Despite the fact that they had been having regular video dates for several months. Your instinct that traveling to him is also pursuing him is correct. If this relationship evolves into a committed relationship, over time the masculine and feminine roles become more fluid. Pursuing him and stepping into a more masculine role early in the dating process will only create confusion for you that is difficult to reverse. A man who wants a committed relationship with you will pursue you for a committed relationship.
He will be willing to travel to you, to wait for you and take things at your pace, and do what it takes to make you happy. After a month of coaching with us she has men traveling hours to meet her for a first date. You are worth traveling for. Try to set up the first meet for as short a time as possible. If it goes well then it will leave both of you wanting more, which is a good thing.
One of our clients met a man who had traveled from out of town to meet her in the city. He planned to stay the whole weekend. Unfortunately, it became clear within the first hour that they were not a good match. After struggling to find common ground the first day, they agreed not to get together for the second. Keep it small. Give the two of you the opportunity to get to know each other in a more casual setting. You will have plenty of time to plan bigger trips with plenty of romance if everything goes well.
Know what it means to you when you choose to sleep with someone you are dating. Does it mean that you are in an exclusive relationship? Are you okay being casual about sex and not letting it create more expectations? Have some ground rules for whether and when you feel comfortable sleeping with him. A man who wants a relationship with you will be willing to wait.
The most important role of being in your feminine through the dating process is that you get to set the pace. Never have him stay at your place. Simply too many scenarios where things could go wrong. When you meet someone for the first time having boundaries is a good thing. It is not your job to make things easy or convenient for him. He is a grown man. He can solve his own problems about where to stay and how to get around. If you want your man to have drive and ambition, then that is how you want to date. Another important reason he should never stay at your place is so you have time alone to notice your feelings after the two of you part.
Let him decide what he would like to experience. You can certainly give him options to choose from, but ultimately it ought to be his decision where to take you. This way he can budget accordingly. It is not your responsibility to make every moment perfect or to ease his discomfort.
Show up authentically and relax into your feminine. Leave space for awkward pauses and uncomfortable moments. A man who wants a long-term committed relationship will want to be your hero. Even if you feel uncomfortable resist the urge to make things better. Talking on the phone or over video chat will not give you insight into who he really is. Being with him out in the world and seeing how he interacts with valets, waiters, or other service people will reveal more.
If you have concerns share how you feel. Take note of behaviors that could be part of a bigger pattern that may concern you. When you meet someone for the first time the desire for it to be magical and romantic can cloud your judgment. Take off your rose-colored glasses and see him for who he is, not who you want him to be. Your question tells us that you are already projecting into the future about this guy. Get present to what is happening right now, not what may happen in the future. Practice staying present to each moment.
Notice when you are filling in the blanks or checking off boxes. What if everything goes perfectly and the two of you really hit it off? Does that mean that he should extend his stay so the two of you can take things even further? Resist the urge to change the plan because things are going well. If he really wants a relationship with you then there will be plenty of time for the two of you to take your relationship further.
Leaving him wanting more at the end of his visit is exactly how you want him to depart. When you meet someone for the first time the desire for it to be special should not get in the way of taking things slowly. It takes time to know who someone really is. By taking your time you allow the space for true intimacy to blossom. A good man is not a unicorn, nor is this guy. Just because you have a great connection on video chat or on the phone does not mean that he is your guy. We encourage you to release your expectations and allow yourself to show up authentically.
By practicing these tips you can allow yourself to discover who he is, and if there is a chance for the two of you without putting too much pressure on the first visit. When you put your lovability in the hands of a stranger, you are giving your power and your worth away. Stay in your power by being clear on your boundaries and enforcing them while remaining cautiously optimistic. You can also download and listen to the audio version if you prefer. They uncover subconscious blocks to love so that you can select an ideal partner to share your life with.
Follow them on Twitter , Facebook , and Instagram. Thanks for your feedback. Feel free to share about your experience meeting someone for the first time. How did it go? I experienced this scenario in January. Hi Chris! We believe in you and know that love is in your future. Thanks for the tips! It was a very helpful and great article.
We appreciate it.. Very helpful tips! My first ldr meeting this saturday is probably against all tips. He is gonna stay 3 months in my appartment. I had a good laugh reading through those tips. Sometimes all they need is a passport and a ticket.
Thank you! This was really helpful, I started a relationship January, we agreed to meet may,I was suppose to go to his place, with what I just read I will change the plan, the meeting was for a weekend, what do you think of that? I want more guide please. Hi Bettyliz! If you are interested in getting more specific guidance you can reach out to us by scheduling a Soulmate Strategy Call. So glad I read this before making arrangements to the contrary!!
Just what a novice online dater needs to know!! Hi Sarah! Feel free to update us on how things go. Hi Lee! Thanks for your question. Save my name, , and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Get Started Now! We your privacy. We will never rent, sell or trade your information to any other organization. The anticipation of meeting for the first time has you worried that you could screw things up.
Stick To Your Plan What if everything goes perfectly and the two of you really hit it off? Practice Non-Attachment A good man is not a unicorn, nor is this guy. Comments this was very nice thanks a lot. Hi Trenee! I found this very helpful. This is beautifully written. Thank you so much! Hi Aishwaryaa!Long distance relationship first meeting
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