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The fact that your boyfriend still gets along with his ex can be both good and bad. A man who is friendly with the woman who came before you may demonstrate he has the ability to forgive and forget. Perhaps it reveals his positive attitude toward life and love in general, and the fact that you don't get upset when he sees his ex, reveals your trust in him.
However, there are some situations when suspicion he comments on tons of her Facebook photos , progresses to a justified fear she is texting him at a. You might have a ring on your finger, declarations of love and he may already be a fixture in your life, but you still have this nagging suspicion that he would rather be with her. It's difficult to distinguish between those moments of paranoia that they might get back together, and disturbing intuition, punctuated by a bunch of red flags, that that tells you in his heart, you are his second choice.
Bear in mind that he does not have to be actively seeing her, or even talking to her, to still be in love with her. The s that he's not over her might be evident in his behavior toward her, his lifestyle choices, or in by the way he treats you. Women should remember that what you tolerate is up to you". Don't ever let anyone have that much power over you If you resonate with one or more of the above 15 s, get out with your dignity intact. Don't wait until you are publicly humiliated by two people who apparently care very little about you. Love isn't like that. Love shouldn't ever make you feel that way.
Find someone who makes you feel wonderful, and make them feel wonderful in return. If a third person can so easily come between you and your guy, you probably didn't have as good a relationship as you believed. If he comments on the 'drama' you've created, remind him the drama is all his. During our conversations, he has mentioned his current situation- that he doesn't have a proper job, unlike before when he earned a lot of money and could properly take care of his wife.
He feels sorry for me because his situation is so different from the past. I have tried: Telling him that's why he is easily angered when talking about his ex-wife. He told me that even if I left him, he would never go back to his ex-wife. I think it was caused by: I think that he's still in love with his ex. Just stop bringing up his ex-wife. She is not in the picture and even though his financial circumstances have changed.
The more you bring her up, the more damage you cause to your relationship. You would be angry and hurt if you felt he was comparing you to her all the time but he is not. Encourage him to resurrect his career but do so in a manner that does not bring up his past life. Your article has been very helpful answering some questions. I have been seeing a man for 9 months, his wife has her first affair 4 years ago but he 'would have walked to the end of the earth' his words to save the marriage of 25 years. She eventually ended it, and 2 months after he started dating me. I am now starting to feel that he is not in fact over her and I am the 'stand in' or 'rebound'.
He said he will always stay friends with her. They still have the same friends, he goes out and about with her family, and she asks me all the time we have never met. Still, friends on Facebook and she regularly post memories of the 2 of them. Every single conversation there is a mention of her, he does not compare me to her, but I have figured it out that they speak almost daily, if not speak then text.
I have brought this up and he says 'she says we will never get back together'. I don't get a straight answer about his feelings towards her.. My question; I think I know the answer, do I wait until all the financial side has been settled in the hope this will change things? Or am I kidding myself? He is a great guy, but I think he is hung up on her, and she treats him horribly. Do I just end it?. I have tried: Giving him space and time Listening to him, any arguments with her, and conversation he has had with her. He started dating you fairly fast after the end of his year marriage.
You can't expect him to drop all mention of her when this is all he has known for the last 25 years. It is tough to determine if you are just a rebound. I would say you are more of a comfort to him during this time which might grow to something more. Just keep in mind that you are going to hear a lot about his ex because she is still in his social circle and a part of his life.
With more time in your current relationship, he should begin to distance himself. Actually, I am the ex-girlfriend, he broke up with me and was seeing her before he broke up with me. He has not told her. I'm the recent ex-girlfriend. Found out that he is with the "co-worker" that he told me was "just a friend" and she is now his girlfriend. He is avoiding coming to get his Christmas presents which he has said he set a day but came the day before when I had other plans.
Then told me he has a new girlfriend and wanted to know if I still wanted to see him on Thursday -which is tomorrow. I answered him yesterday the following: Lol- it would be nice to catch up. How did you feel when we finally talked via cell phone? Was it dreaded or felt comfortable?
I enjoyed it and I got the feeling you might have too. He has not replied. To summarize, and keep this within the context of the article, it seems that you are, in a round-about way asking if your boyfriend is still in love with you. It also seems that you are assuming that he did not tell her about you, or that he was seeing both of you at the same time because he was intending to return to you. Unfortunately, it is more likely that he was trying not to turn the new girlfriend off by making any type of reference to you.
Also, nothing pops the romantic bubble of new love faster, then telling her all about your last relationship and how he was have sex with her too. Here is also another conclusion to arrive at here, which is may think that he may think his relationship with you is none of her business and vice-versa.
Furthermore, some people find the idea of cheating or keeping secrets from a lover sexually exciting. As for your final query, it is likely he is not coming over because he is trying to detach from you. The fact that he has lied to two women should also indicate to you that he is lying to you about liking hearing from you or wanting presents as well.
If you have tried the thirty-day no contact rule, as you say you have, and this is the result you chasing him then it is time to let it go. This appears to be a man who is in love with his new girlfriend and not his ex. When I met my boyfriend he said he was divorced it had been 8 years after his " divorce" when I met him.
Within the first year, I discovered he was legally separated and they had indeed been apart for 8 years. This has always troubled me. I pressed him and he said when we moved in together he would get a solid divorce. Also within the 12 years, he rarely spoke with her.
They have 2 boys together which he raised. Now within the last year, he speaks to her at least once a week. He is distant with me, and when I press him about it, he actually becomes angry. He has not gotten his divorce and I am perplexed. This sits very heavy on me, and he tells me I am crazy for thinking he would get back to her.
Also, he updated his will, made her the executor and of course his sons are the beneficiaries as it relates to his sons I have no problem with that. But the executor part, adds to my worry. Any thoughts? Depending on the age of his children, their mother may be the executor because she is the other custodial parent. Do not read too much into that, as it is more about legality than love. As for the divorce, he should definitely file now. Perhaps he has not feelings for her but is not motivated to make any changes, but that is not a good indicator for your relationship's future.
If his children are old enough that there are no custodial issues, and financially all debts are paid off from the marriage, this should be a simple divorce. Is his name still on property that he owns tly with his wife? Could finances prevent him from filing? Instead of forcing the issue, nicely ask what is stopping him from filing for divorce.
Let him know that you are not interrogating him but just want to understand what the reason is. Maybe he is speaking with his wife to get the divorce in process. I recently found paperwork that my guy has a will that was ed 3 years ago naming his ex-wife as beneficiary and her daughter. Looking back I was dating him then and he asked me to marry him, I haven't discussed what I found and really not sure what to do. I just know I've been through a lot and I don't want to walk in the same shoes again, when you know better, you do better.
His ex wife is listed because she is the other custodial parent. After 7 years, you should be married and have immigration procedures started if you are from different countries. If you are from the same country, then you should be living together full time in the same location.
He has asked you to marry him and you have spent 7 years of your life waiting for him to ask you, so make a decision. He is serious about you and the relationship or he would not have asked you to marry him. My boyfriend and I have been dating for so many years now and anytime we try to talk about his ex he leaves my questions unanswered. He told me never to talk about her.Is he over her
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