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In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. As we study this passage of Scripture on the biblical teaching of marriage and family, we can use the analogy of a pair of scissors to define the roles. Just as a pair of scissors need two halves to function properly as a whole, so does marriage. For instance, he talks first to the wives, then to the husbands; he talks to the children, and then he talks to the parents. Today, in order to make sure that we understand marriage correctly, we need to remind ourselves that Scripture says marriage is not two people tying the knot, but marriage is God ing two people together, and the two become as one.
Half a pair of scissors is not very useful. A pair of scissors requires two halves made into one, and both halves need to be functioning appropriately. The culture Paul was addressing was one in which the men basically ran the show. They had almost total authority over the women, the children and the slaves. The women, children and slaves had absolutely no alternative but to live submissively to these very authoritarian people. So it was a patriarchal and hierarchical society. Paul comes into that situation with the Christian Gospel, and he tells the women, the slaves and the children that they are fundamentally the same as the men, and that was a radical message at that particular time.
He tells them that they are created by God, they are loved by God. Christ died for them, and they could be reconciled to God; they could be indwelt by the Holy Spirit , they could become members of the Body of Christ, they could actually have a life of eternal ificance.
This was radical in the extreme. That is also the challenge to men and women today. We live in a secularized culture, but if we profess the name of Christ, then we identify with the principles and norms which Christ has outlined and there is a clash of cultures. We need to understand both and decide where we stand on the issues. We have to understand what the Scripture is saying about hehip , about submission and about love. My study of this suggests that understanding hehip, submission and love is the essence of understanding what the Bible is teaching about relationships in marriage.
The reason we mention love is very, very obvious when we turn to Ephesians , where Paul begins to address the husbands. This is what he says:. Are you getting the message? This idea of submission sticks in our craw very quickly indeed. Now you rule; now you control; now you be in charge; now you exercise authority. That is why we have to look very carefully at what he means by submitting. What does he say? We all know that! Who is my nearest neighbor? Let me illustrate this for you. In our premarital classes with the young couples about to be married, in personal conversation we ask them two questions.
Question one: Were you loved as ? Whatever the answer is, the second question is: How do you know? The young lady, for instance: Were you loved as ? We never forgot birthdays, we gave each other presents. We used to write little notes to each other. And I want you to know how a young woman should behave with a young man! So we turn to the young man: What about you, were you loved as ? I never saw my parents being affectionate. In fact, my dad yelled at my mother a lot. I don't think she had a very good time of it, really.
She just was quiet. She looked after us kids, but If I made a mistake, he bawled me out! He died while I was in high school. But I think he loved us in his own kind of way. Folks, that marriage is going to have horrendous problems.
Because they both define love in totally different ways. One has experienced one kind of love, and her expectations are based on that definition. The other one defines it entirely differently, and his expectations are negligible. Tell me what it really means. Christ loved the church. How do we know He loved the church? He gave Himself up for her. How do we know He gave Himself up for the church? He gave Himself up for the church on the cross! The symbol of Christianity is the cross. What is that all about?
It is all about the self-sacrifice of Jesus, by which men and women are reconciled to God, and are brought into the experience of redemption and are indwelt by the Holy Spirit. They have the forgiveness of sins, receive the gift of eternal life, and are bound for eternity. The Apostle Paul takes that dramatic picture and applies it to husbands. Men, ask yourself a question: when did I last voluntarily sacrifice something dear to me for the sake of my wife?
You see, our marriages in this culture are in a disastrous state. Christ gave Himself for the church intentionally and purposefully. The sacrifice of Christ was intentional. It was purposeful; He was doing it for a reason. What was the intention of Christ? In dying for the church, what He had in mind was not little groups of people who squabble, and people who go to a church for so long until they get fed up, or the pastor leaves, and then they pack it in, and go some place else.
Not hopping and shopping around churches. He died in order that He would eventually produce out of every kindred and tongue, every tribe and nation, something which would transcend all human barriers throughout human history, and it would be a perfect Church. By the same token, husbands, be intentional and purposeful in your sacrificial love. As Christ is to the Church, working to bring the Church to her fullness and completion, that I as a husband might be for my wife an agent whereby she is allowed to come to a point of fullness and completion and be all that God intended her to be.
A friend of mine is a professor of New Testament. He was working on this passage of Scripture, which is not easy to handle because Paul talks about husbands and wives, and then he uses the analogy of Christ and the Church, and then he gets carried away with his analogy. But my friend is a serious New Testament scholar, so he was exegeting this passage. As he was working on it, it suddenly struck him that Christ was working with the Church that it might eventually be a radiant Church.
But for years our marriage has run on parallel tracks — you do your thing, and I do my thing. What happens is this marriage operates basically on the basis of what you want, and I just fit in. I find, therefore, that the easiest thing to do is say nothing, and just go along with what you want to do. The result is that I live a life of frustration, a sense of being unfulfilled, bordering on resentment. The secular culture and the secular norm is producing utter disaster in marriages and families.
This passage also reminds us that the husband is the head of the wife. What does a head need? A body. What does a body need? A head. What good is a headless body? No good! What good is a bodiless head? What do he and bodies need? Each other! Husbands, love your wives; as your own body. If you see yourself as the head, you better see her as the body! Nothing to do with subservience, nothing to do with inferiority. Everything to do with mutual inter-relatedness, and mutual, total dependence.
You are utterly indispensable to each other. You know what the problem has very often been? Very little understanding of being mutually indispensable. Not only that, husbands ought to love their wives as their own body.Husbands love your wives as
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