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Approaching a girl at a bar can be a nerve-raking ordeal, if you do not come to some quick realizations. Being a female, I know what it is like to ask a guy out and to be asked out and hit on. We worry about rejection just like you and we hope you are going to ask us out so we do not have to do it. It is better to be rejected than waste your time on someone who is not really into you. There will always be another girl out there, I promise. Lets be honest. Approaching a girl at a bar is a nightmare for some men, and we know it. But understand that most of the time, we want you to approach us.
If you are interested in us, come say hello. Worse thing that happens is were not interested. But, if you catch our eye, the chance is we are. Sit at the bar with her and buy your drinks where she can see them made and given straight to you. Women, typically being the victim of this, are usually more aware of it than men are, therefore we think about it while out, when you may not; but now that you know, you can also be aware and plan accordingly.
If you are at the point in the night where you feel comfortable asking her home and having sex with her, you should be able to ask her home casually, without sounding like a creep. You are a grown up, act like one. Asking a girl home too soon just looks sleazy. It makes it seem like you do this all the time and you are so cocky as to think she will come home and give it up that quick. It is just an all-around bad idea. You want her to know you respect her so she respects you in return. Do not treat her like a piece of meat. Make sure you have at least taken her out on a first date, dinner and a movie for example followed by asking her to coffee or a nightcap at your place.
An exception: Maybe you have been dancing all night, it is heating up between you on the dance floor and you are getting all touchy feely; this is the ideal time to ask her home. If you plan to get in her pants, I strongly suggest that you pay the bill. It is a courteous gesture and will get you the points you want to get lucky.
It also shows her that you do have money and probably a job, ally stability, which is always a turn on. Paying the bill will show her just want you want to without being blatant about it. When the time comes to pay the bill, do not flash your cash around. As much as money rules the world, we do not find it impressive when men flaunt their cash. Actually it is a down right turn off. Make sure there are minimal to no dishes in the sink and absolutely no dishes and cups scattered throughout the house; clothing, dirty and clean, should be in their proper places. This means the hamper or drawers, not the floor or under the bed and shoved in the closet.
This site has a great article with simple drinks and their components, so you can have a neat selection of nightcaps to wow her as well. A few simple drinks will be sufficient; having some beer is also a good option. The object is not getting her inebriated; it is to get her undressed. Make sure your room mates know you will have a guest, if you have them and make sure they are okay with it.
If you plan to have her stay over, have a clean bathroom for one; no hair all over or piss stains on the underneath of the toilet, make it clean. You know what your mother would ask for, do that. Have clean towels, an extra and new toothbrush, you can find them at the dollar store and make sure there is actually shampoo and conditioner in the shower for her. Do not do the typical guy-hair-and-body-wash thing. Also, do not make it shampoo and conditioner for women because you do not want her to think you have girls over every night of the week, even if you do.
You want to make her feel comfortable, but not too comfortable. Make sure there are condoms at the ready. Do not rely on her to bring protection; odds are she will not. If you think you are going to get lucky, then be prepared for it. You do not want to be ready to get it in and find out neither one of you has a condom.
Do not listen to her if she says she is on birth control. A girl who says this is sleezy and you run the risk of contracting something that is preventable; , not to mention all the communicable diseases. Do not trust her; send her on her merry way. This may take the fun out of the whole thing, but it is a real concern and something you should keep in the forefront of your mind. You will regret it one day if you do not. No, means no and if she does not really want to go home with you, why would you waste your time?
She does have the right to say she does not want to go home with you, remember that and respect it. If she opts out, that does not mean she will not opt in later. Give her your instead and ask if she would give you hers so you can call her for another night out. If she also opts out to extending her phone , while only taking yours, it is a to move to the next girl; she is clearly not interested and you should not waste your time.
If you took a cab back to your place, she does not have transportation and it would be nice if you paid for her cab home if she is not staying the night. On the other hand, if you would like her to leave shortly after, make sure she knows this upfront and before she comes over.
If you do plan for her to spend the night, be prepared she may not leave immediately in the morning. This means you do not kick her out before the sun comes up; that is not spending the night. This means that you should also let other people who live with you know someone may be staying over and find out if they are okay with it. You could look at the clock and comment on how late it is getting and you have work or plans for early in the morning. If you do not plan to call her again then it does not really matter if you are obvious in your asking.
Whatever your reasoning is, if you do ask her to leave prematurely then you are paying her cab fare home. It is only proper to do so because then you are not a complete jerk leaving her high and dry. There are so many different girls out there and that I cannot tell you exact line to say. The real key to all of this is realizing when you are wasting your time.
Asking her back to your place for coffee and a drink is as obvious as it comes in asking someone to come home and fuck you. If she does not respond to this gesture, maybe it is time for you to move on down the line. With these simple tips, it should be easy coming up with a way to ask her home that fits your exact situation. Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. Going there just to be the creepy guy stalking women or a place to go an relax, have a good time, maybe get lucky with a girl you decided to say hi to, lol.
Great post. Thank you guys for the kind words! I really appreciate the feedback, even if it were to be negative! So thank you! We need to remember this! So long as its not super lame, I like this. Girls like guys who can make them laugh. Good luck and happy dating guys!
Much love — Jane. This is absolutely vile advice on how to mistreat your fellow human beings. You treat girls like condoms — use once and discard. People, come back to your senses!! Where do we begin? Consider the following: 1 Women genuinely detest men. Welcome to MY world!!! Mickey, Your world is the one you create for yourself. None of these things are true in my world. You should try it sometime.
I tried it many years ago when I was much younger. Sorry, but I just do not believe. Question: Just for laughs, if I buy a woman a drink or two at a bar, then I see her leave with some other dude, what the hell do I do after that??? I just read your comments and it makes me feel bad. I can never give up hope of my fairytale because rejection is the 1 reason why things will fail. I know the dating world today is so messed up, both men and women! Women can be really mean and greedy just to name two.
I believe that what you put out into the world is what you will receive. Much love. Why the hell not???? False, but I am not going to respond to anymore of your negative comments on here Mickey. If you want to talk one on one and work together me at menprovement gmail. With that said, chill out bro. Maybe give her a glance and when you lock eyes give her a quick smile and go about your business.
Be interested, but also alot less interested than the guys drooling all over her. Lastly, be kind of an asshole.. The article had one thing right when they said just talk normally, the easiest way to get into her pants, is to not blatantly try to get into her pants. Be bold, funny, and a little mean. Good luck bro. If all else fails, get a fat chick or a hooker for a confidence boost. If you end up meeting a chick, awesome..
Oh well…. I realize this is a really old thread, but you have to remember at least one thing. Yes, a lot of women do have confidence problems, BUT… Hot or even somewhat hot girls became aware of the fact that they are attractive in like the 4th through 6th grade. You remember… That period of time when the girls were taller, faster, in some cases stronger than us. They mature a lot earlier than we do. On the other hand, some guys are awkward and zit-faced until well into high school. My take from all of this is that they have a lot more experience with being confident than we do.
You have to be good with YOU before you can attract women. I think the best thing to do is be confident, be yourself and most importantly talk to a girl like you would anyone else… normally. Hey Guys, think back to the woman or two if you are lucky that you ended up falling in love with and having a relationship of growth with. Women tring to meet men at bar are there just for a good time. Two people make love.How to approach a woman at a bar
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The Ultimate Guide To Successfully Approach Women At A Bar