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Relationships are challenging. We cannot control them. In fact, when you think about it, what we know about relationships is… not much. Unfortunately, relationships are not part of any school curriculum. Some of our relationships during adulthood are going to fail. A breakup is a very normal part of many of the relationships in our lives. It happens to all of us at some point or another, there is nothing shameful about it happening to you now.
And it is followed by an equally painful, long and difficult process: the process of healing. One day you may feel relieved, the next day you may feel stressed again - the third day you may feel angry at your ex or at yourself. And that's why healing after a breakup is a process that takes time.
You have to go through all of these emotions and understand why you feel each and every one of them. I don't need to deal with it. If you run into the next relationship before dealing with the issues created by this breakup, you risk projecting those issues onto your next partner. And that's not fair. But what if some feelings are negative? Like anger? Negative emotions are still valid, and you should make room for them; acknowledge them. It takes two to tango. This means that whatever happened in your relationship, it was the result and the responsibility of two people, not one.
Even though you did your best and tried hard, there's a big percentage of a relationship that we simply cannot control or change. Healing takes as long as it takes. Everyone has their own unique way of processing a breakup. This is simply yours. I ran divorce support groups for years and I can tell you I saw both people who initiated the divorce and people who were on the receiving end in the same group, sharing the same pain.
Any loss we experience in our life is painful. They may be thriving - or not. They may have moved on and started a new family - or not. Focus on what you need and what makes you feel better - not on what your ex-partner, your family or even society may think would be a good idea. To feel like your trust in relationships has been shattered. By focusing on yourself as we mentioned above, and staying single for a while to figure out what makes you tick and what your needs truly are, you can enter this new relationship without carrying the ghosts of the past one.
Breaking up is a painful process. The most important thing is that you take care of yourself and focus on your healing before you meet another person. And remember, you are not alone. Vassia Sarantopoulou is a Counselor-Psychotherapist with more than 15 years of experience, the Head Psychologist and founder of AntiLoneliness. AntiLoneliness offers individual and couples counseling, workshops and support groups, in Home Lifestyle Lifestyle Articles. Lifestyle Articles. Author Vassia Sarantopoulou. .Healing after break up
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How to heal after a breakup