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Her weekdays are booked solid with coffee and lunch dates. Her evenings are filled with board and committee meetings, social events and impromptu visitors. Every Friday night, her Shabbat table is full. But, if you know Erin, then you know it has far more to do with her contagious personality and commitment to community than it has to do with any official business. All things will be revealed. Every week I meet with between 8 to 14 young adults. It could be sitting down with someone to discuss his or her dating life. It could be talking about Jewish customs surrounding death and mourning with a young adult who recently lost a parent.
It could be making a shiva call, dropping off dinner for someone who just had a baby, visiting someone who is sick or helping someone find the right trip to Israel. In a one-on-one conversation, you can accomplish a lot more than you can in a group setting. Erin began working at Partners Detroit in , two years after moving to the area. She describes Partners as the place where Detroit comes to learn. The organization works with people looking to bring Judaism into their lives on a deeper level and provide them with the resources, trips, conversations, friendships and connections to do just that.
In the young adult division, we host informal events like BBQs, cooking demonstrations, even a roller skating event over Chanukah. I also give classes on topics that I think are relevant to people in their 20s and 30s in various stages of young adult life. Over the years, Erin has given classes on Judaism and pregnancy for first-time expectant moms, now offering a follow-up Mommy and Me Lunch Bunch class once a week that looks at Jewish pearls of wisdom on parenting.
We work to create a space for young professionals where Judaism is celebrated and where asking questions is admired. At different stages of life, people will be more tapped into their Judaism or less so, but I think always having a constant relationship with our Judaism is critical. Some weeks she and her husband, David, have two people, and some weeks they have 22, but every week is special, not only for the guests, but also for the Stiebels.
Everyone brings their own traditions and personalities to our table, enhancing the entire Shabbos experience. Pulling out all the stops once a week is a lot of work. But Erin has a system and more importantly, she loves it. We have everyone go around and introduce themselves and tell a little bit about themselves. Erin moved to Metro Detroit in , just five days after her wedding.
When the two got engaged, David had just returned from Israel and accepted an amazing job opportunity based in Detroit. When his new employer informed him that he was actually needed on site in Detroit, we had to make some major changes to our plan. But we paid for our whole apartment what I paid for a room in a three-bedroom in Washington Heights, so that was a win. That was until she got a phone call from a stranger her first week in Detroit.
But that was far from the last invitation. In their first year of marriage, Erin and David were invited out for every Shabbat meal — lunches and dinners. People in the community were so excited to welcome a new, young family to town that they were fighting over who got to host the Stiebels each week. If someone has a need, this community wants to take care of it. Nobody needs to be alone for anything that they are going through, because everyone is here to embrace and support.
I learned very quickly as the recipient of this kindness and thoughtfulness, that this is what you do here. Erin and David had no relatives when they first came to Detroit. When they welcomed their first child, a baby boy, the generosity of the Detroit community once again overwhelmed them. My mom was in town visiting and was all ready to go to the store and the bakery and buy all the food for the party. By the time Shabbat started, over 50 people had dropped off food. Our house was full. Now the couple lives in a house in Southfield with their three boys, Alexander, 4.
I love having a voice in the Orthodox community — both in the Modern Orthodox world as my children attend Farber Hebrew Day School, and in the Yeshivish community, as my oldest son will be starting Yeshiva Beth Yehudah next year. Being able to work in the community on so many different levels — on committees for synagogues, MCing Great BIG Challah Bake, all of it is so important to me. I would never be content just sitting in my bubble.
I have to be able to engage with everybody. I have to be able to meet people who are different from me and learn from them. I always tell my kids: We can learn something from everyone we meet and become stronger in who we are as a result of it.
We must know what we stand for but also be open to those who are different than us. I went with the intention of attending the portion of the program where they present their case for giving to the Jewish Federation and leaving right after. I was so moved by how the young adults in the presentation spoke about how the Federation impacted their lives that I knew I had to get involved. That was the beginning. Because of his new position, his time became incredibly limited so he made the decision to roll off the Board when the year came to an end.
I work in the Jewish community, so now I can sit back and let somebody else take care of the rest. But I do feel strongly that if I want the community to evolve in a certain way for me and my family, that I need to have a voice in the conversation. In Silver Spring, Erin grew up in spaces with Jews of all denominations. And as a Wexner Graduate Fellow, she loved the inclusive environment the program provided. And that everybody who is involved is so passionate about how this community is growing.
And even though she grew up in an Orthodox community, her parents felt that the inspiration that NCSY could give Erin outside of her yeshiva day school education would be something valuable. It gives the girls the opportunity to see Israel through the eyes of the people, and not just as a tourist. Now, the program has grown to almost girls, from both Jewish day school and public school backgrounds.
If one is artistic, she can paint a mural at a school in an underprivileged neighborhood. If one grew up speaking Russian, she can go into a nursing home in Israel and speak to one of the residents who may not speak Hebrew. The tools we often take for granted are just the things that make us special and allow us to uniquely contribute to the fabric of the Jewish people. Free time? We FaceTime my mom every night during dinner with my kids.
I also dabble in matchmaking. I just recently got involved with a shidduch initiative here in Detroit. The kosher, drive-thru Dunkin Donuts. We love going to the zoo, they have an awesome splash pad there. We also love walking around downtown Detroit, especially the River Walk. And we love the Science Museum. Those hand-cut fries are just something special. I personally enjoy walking around Birmingham, it makes me feel really fancy. On the other end of the spectrum, I love Meijer. I could spend all day in there.
David grew up here in the Bloomfield Hills area, and his grandmother was a sculptor. A lot of her statues are around Detroit. So, we go on adventures to find the sculptures with our kids and show them how her legacy lives on. . We Need to Talk.Educated professional for friend confidant
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